Today’s verse is a heavy one. There’s a lot to unpack and a lot of wisdom here.
If you think about it, some of the greatest reality checks come from those who know and love us the most.
I share a lot that my mom and husband are commonly the people in my life who (among many things) will tell me when I’m overracting to something or talking myself to seriously and when I just need to let something go (even if I’m “right” in how I feel).
It might wound my ego initially, but it’s necessary and needed and I thank God for them.
I may not agree with their opinions right away, but when I have the wisdom to REALLY listen and HEAR what they are saying to me. I hear, not only their words, but I “hear” their HEARTS– I know that these are two people that have my best interest in mind.
They want to correct me so I can get past the minor challenges in life and grow and pass any necessary tests in order to move on to the greater things the Lord has in store for my future.
We can never take these people for granted — even when we disagree with them– ESPECIALLY when we disagree with then. There’s too much value in that type of relationship.
Consider the contrary: Sometimes we have people that will appear to be loving towards us and who will profess to be in our corner, but, in times of stress or adversity, they insist on becoming caught up in trivial details:
- They join us in our pity parties;
- They never correct us when we are wrong in our actions;
- They hype us up and egg us on when we really need to be told to stop.
These “kisses” do us no good and this person is really more of an enemy than a friend.
These types of people have to be cut off. QUICKLY.
Yes, we are all responsible for our own actions, but you are also responsible for the company that you keep and you will often become like the people you are around.
If you can do nothing else, pray for them but learn to keep a respectable distance until their actions change.
A spoken reprimand is better than approval that’s never expressed. The wounds from a lover are worth it; kisses from an enemy do you in.
Proverbs 27:5-6 MSG